Losing a loved one is never easy, but it’s especially difficult when that person is your spouse. Whether you have spent years or decades together, the loss of the person you hold most dear can be difficult to overcome. And yet, spending the rest of your life grieving is no way to live. If you’ve been struggling to understand how to move forward with grace after losing a spouse, here are a few suggestions to keep in mind.
Create a Routine
After a death, your entire world will be rocked. While this is a normal part of adjusting to the loss, it’s important that this time of chaos and lack of organization is only temporary. Once the funeral and financial matters are more settled, you can help yourself move forward by creating a routine. By establishing a daily schedule, you will give your body a signal that life can move forward. When the body is relaxed, you will find it easier to sleep at a normal hour and wake up feeling rested, so that you can navigate the necessities of your day-to-day.
Take Up a New Hobby
As part of your new routine, you may find it
healing to begin a new hobby. Gardening can be a relaxing and gratifying
option. As you tend to your plants, you can be reminded that life continues.
Though growth and adaptation to a new life stage may feel slow at times, rest
assured that you are exactly where you need to be. That being said, there are a
wide range of hobbies you may enjoy pursuing that can fill the hours that may
otherwise feel empty. If you’ve had a passion but never explored it, now is
One of the best ways to move forward with
grace is to speak openly with friends and family members.
Many of your loved ones may want to comfort you but not know how. When you
share your feelings openly, you allow others to understand more of what you’re
experiencing, so that they can help you process in whatever way is most
Similarly, it can be very healing to invest time with those who are still in your
life. Spend time taking a walk, having dinner, or doing any other activity that
feels meaningful. These moments of face-to-face connection can remind you of all
of the reasons you have to continue living.
Maintain Your Home
In a state of grief, it’s easy to become
overwhelmed with home repairs. If your spouse was the one who managed
maintenance, you may find yourself intimidated by everything you need to do. However,
ensuring your home runs smoothly does not have to be a challenge.
According to House Method, keeping up with simple
maintenance around the home will prevent it from going into disrepair. Change
out the air filter every three months, dust the floorboards, vacuum regularly,
and make sure the dishes don’t pile up in the sink. When your home is cared
for, you’ll feel that at least some part of your life is manageable.
In addition to taking care of your home, it’s
important that you continue to take care of yourself. Although it may feel
difficult at first, make sure you’re continuing to eat, sleep, and exercise as
regularly as possible. If it becomes difficult to complete normal tasks, you
should speak with your healthcare provider or ask friends and family members
Although the loss of a spouse is a major life
event, it doesn’t have to derail the years you have remaining. In fact, with
just a few of these suggestions, you can regain a semblance of normalcy, so
that you can continue to live with grace.